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Your routine means sweet f*ck all

I know entrepreneurs who get up two hours early every day to get shit done before the world interferes.

I know entrepreneurs who shut off their phones and Facebook for their scheduled midday “content writing time.”

I know entrepreneurs who have daily schedules, minutely defining when and how long they work on a new group course, polish social media posts, eat, and go for a walk.

You ask me all the time what a “real” entrepreneur’s day looks like. I always answer the same way:

Who is this “real” entrepreneur you speak of? And why do you give a shit how she spends her time?

YOU don’t need to follow someone else’s routine or rules.

YOU don’t need to arrange your desk the way Oprah does in order to make bank.

YOU don’t need to use trendy calendar software, have the perfect website or spend a fortune on glam photos.

YOU only need to DO WHAT YOU DO BEST – in the way only YOU can.

Understandably, some people need structure or discipline.

What we don’t need is someone else’s structure. How Tina Fey parts her curtains in the morning is irrelevant. That’s another stall tactic. Another way to say, ‘Oh, my desk, office, [insert bullshit excuse] isn’t ready yet. I can’t work today.’

Enough screwing around.

But don’t take my word for it. Below are thoughts from three wildly famous entrepreneurs on what got them there:

“I never dreamed about success. I worked for it.” — Estée Lauder

“My philosophy is that not only are you responsible for your life, but doing the best at this moment puts you in the best place for the next moment.” — Oprah Winfrey

“My best successes came on the heels of failures.” — Barbara Corcoran

When someone asks about my daily routine, I quote Ferris Bueller. “You realize if we played by the rules, right now we’d be in gym?”

Fuck the rules.

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Influence is an art

Today, we’re talking about influence, and how you can’t do it if you don’t know yourself.

Tool #2: It’s not about them (aka: Own your shit)

Most of the emotional pain I’ve been through in my life comes from other people. Or rather, my REACTION to other people.

I used to tell myself things like:

“Why can’t he just get it?”
“She doesn’t understand me.”
“Wow, that guy was an ass.”

Here’s the thing, though…

Wishing other people were different is a sign of emotional immaturity on OUR part.

Instead of hoping they understand you, or constantly being triggered by someone else’s behavior, work on your own emotional resilience.

Look inward and ask yourself why you are allowing your emotions to be controlled by other people.

True mastery is high emotional intelligence – a harbinger of the modern leader, by the way.

How to know if you are using this tool:

  • How often do you get frustrated or angry with a client, or friend, or someone you see online?
  • Why do you get frustrated or angry?
  • How often do you complain about how someone else is behaving?
  • How confident do you feel in your ability to lead and influence, despite how people may or may not behave?

How to implement this tool:

  • If you are constantly triggered by what’s going on around you, you’re weak-minded. It’s time to do some internal work on how you became so vulnerable to what other people think, say or do.
  • Complaining about how others behave is a sign we are losing our focus and abdicating responsibility. We are believing, in those moments, that somehow those people are responsible for our feelings. Which is bullshit. No one can make you feel anything. Only you can do that.
  • Leading and influencing require high emotional intelligence. So, if you’re someone who loses her shit when things don’t turn out, or when someone replies with snark, that means you are leaving your rational mind and becoming emotional. The moment you become emotional, you lose your seat of power. Logic is gone and we begin reacting (not choosing thoughtful, intelligent responses). And no one can lead from a reactionary place.

True leadership and Influence is complicated and fluid.

You’ve got to know yourself if you want to attract raving fans and guide them to better lives.

You have to take responsibility for your own emotions and own your shit before anyone will buy into your message and you as a leader. Which is why influence is an art.

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– Becky

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