To the First Clarity, Clients & Cash Graduates of 2015.

You know who usually gives commencement speeches?

People we see as inspirational or talented, someone unexpected with a message that brings tears to your eyes. It’s a hoopla, a remembrance of the struggles and victories you’ve faced while pushing through countless obstacles.

Yet, sometimes, these motivational speeches don’t resonate after we flip our tassels to the other side and toss our caps away, watching them intermingle in the air. By dinner, we’re thinking about the future again: the last chapter has closed. The fear comes back.

How can I apply every lesson I learned without my guide to remind me? Damn, I wish I would have been able to talk to them today.

That’s how it goes for me, at least. Because while it’s awesome to hear from someone with great success or an impeccable sense of humor, these people didn’t live through or feel the same as you, and – often – they’re quoting someone else, not even giving you their full experience. While the speaker might have gone through another course like yours, they didn’t sit next to you reading the same material or hearing the same conversations on conference calls.

Only you and me and the rest of the CCCers did that, gang.

Our last call was Wednesday April 8th, and I missed you the second we hung up. Some of you left kind messages in our group and others send me emails, yet there was no hoopla, no event or celebrations given from my end.

That’s simply because I needed a few days to process exactly what I wanted to say to you.

In 2013, Oprah spoke at a Harvard commencement.

“It doesn’t matter how far you might rise. At some point you are bound to stumble. … If you’re constantly pushing yourself higher … the law of averages, not to mention the Myth of Icarus, predicts that you will at some point fall. And when you do I want you to know this, remember this: There is no such thing as failure. Failure is just life trying to move us in another direction.”

Maybe you were behind in the program for the majority of it. Maybe you’re still working on clearing blocks. Shit, maybe you resigned yourself to “failing” CCC long before this email made it to you. If there is one thing I want you take from your entire experience with me, it’s that your past performance can’t determine your future unless you stop trying.

No matter how impossible something feels, how long the road appears before you, or how much money you’re going to have to come up with to take your business to the next level, know the Universe has your back. That your effort doesn’t go unnoticed. That not only are the big U and CCC alum there to remind you you’ve got this, but so am I.

You might reach a breaking point again. You might change your entire business model (I did). But that doesn’t matter as much as choosing to continue down the path, to face the fear and keep going.

CCC was designed so that you could use it over and over again, even when you fall.

What I’ve seen of each of you – your determination and bravery, your authenticity and bravery – prove to me this program worked for you, even if you haven’t realized it yet.

I’ve done a lot of things in my career. I’ve won awards in many areas of my life, but the most rewarding moment comes from completing the first round of CCC and knowing that you, my friends, are heading exactly where you’re supposed to be.

What a gift you’ve given me in seeing you succeed.

Thank you for being a part of my journey too.




Ling Abson
Suzy Ashworth
Elaine Bacio
Siobhan Barnes
Lisa Cherry Beaumont
Jennifer Blanchard
Kim Bowen
Rochelle Callen
Lisa Carpenter
Manja Cha
Stacie Coleman
Tennile Cooper
Deborah Corbin
Deanna Corso
Meryland Cuevas
Tania Dakka
Shelley Davidescu
Drema Dial, PhD
Kelly Dawn
Chichi Eruchalu
Mel Faulk
Heather Fein
Clare Fielder
Lindsay Fischer
Barbara Foxworth
Tiphanie Gadonna
Noelle Goggin
Rebecca Grainger
Marin Graves
Delora Guignion
Christy Hall
Sherry Hemstreet
Maria Christina Hinton
Lisa May Huby
Lisa Jacobs
Marialuz Jimenez
Sharonda Johnson
April Julson
Erin Kelly
Sarah Liddle
Maria Lironi
Caitlin Lyon
Morgan MacDonald
Kristin Marvin
Siobhan McAuley
Erika McMillon
Jacqueline Miller
Star Monroe
Phoebe Mroczek
Andrea Joy Nussinow
Melissa Opie
Vickie Payne
Alla Petcheniouk
Molly Pinney
Jill Porter
Danielle Raine
Moj Razmi
Shauna Sanders
Jenn Scalia
Hillary Schneider
Renee Schofield
Jennifer Scott
Anna Seabourne
Crystal Shae
Ann-Marie Sosnowski
Sean Stewart
Shari Teigman
Patricia Thompson
Mui Tsun
Jen Turrell
AnYes Van Rhijn
Carolina Velasquez-Gomez
Brigid Ward
Jennifer Wald
Heather Weiss
Greer Wignall
Clarissa Wilson
Annelise Woitulewicz
Krisha Young

**Check back often as we’ll be updating the graduates websites as they come in.

Confidence is a Mindf*ck

We’re all too damn hard on ourselves. Self-confidence is something women lack in most areas. While we claim we’re good at certain things, if we don’t consider ourselves an expert in something, we’re less than likely to claim confidence in it.

Anyone who has suffered low self-esteem (read: most of us) knows it can ruin your day, your year or decade. Life can seem damn difficult. This is especially significant for entrepreneurs who must present themselves confidently all of the time, otherwise our clients don’t know if we can deliver what we’ve promised.

The good news?

Life doesn’t have to be this way. If you’re struggling with confidence, keep reading.

Learn to Meditate

The first step in gaining confidence is becoming calm. If we are flailing around dramatically, it’s certainly a distraction and you’re not working from a place of strength. Calm your mind and focus on your breath, breathing in to a count of four and out for a little longer. By practicing calming yourself while you’re in a state of stress, anxiety or uncertainty, you’re better able to navigate these feelings and move through them quicker.

Stop Worrying about What Others Think

Every person has an opinion, but not every person’s opinion should matter to you. Shit, the only opinion that should truly matter to you is your own (and maybe the people you’re paying to help you reach your goals). Most of what we assume people think of us is wrong. It’s just like biting into an apple you assumed was going to be delicious, crunchy and appetizing, but finding that it’s gone soft and bland. Your imagination isn’t exactly reliable in this way, so there’s no reason to listen to it.

If we’re always worrying about what we imagine other people think, instead of listening to ourselves, we’ll never become who we want. That’s really shitty. So instead of living a life of disappointment, it’s time for you to listen to who truly matters. You, my love.

Get Specific

Being confident doesn’t take any meaning until the confidence is tied to something. For example, you’re confident you can eat lunch or put on your shoes, so you don’t necessarily need to work on those areas. Instead, you have to determine exactly where you need the new confidence.

To help clarify, write down a list of the areas you know you need to work on. This helps your brain start working on those areas immediately.

Then, on another sheet of paper, write down your goal. This also helps your brain prepare for its start and the eventually meeting of your goal. When you create a task, your brain will do whatever it takes to complete the task, just like the times you can’t think of a song title but, hours later, it pops into your head.

You’re setting in motion the piece of your brain attempting to recall, which then makes a new pathway (or blueprint) for it to use and strengthen.

Be as positive as possible. If you’re building confidence, negativity will suck it right out of you. Instead of saying something like, “I don’t want to fail” say “I want to succeed.” Your brain won’t work toward what you want it to do, if you’re telling it what not to do.

To put all of these suggestions in play:

  • Think of a time or place or situation you want to feel confident. Then be as specific as possible about what your goal is.
  • Use positive words to describe how you want to be in that time or place. Happy, healthy, or relaxed are three good examples of positive, instructional words to use.
  • Meditate on those words. Imagine how they make you feel. Pretend you are in the place or time you need the confidence you’re training your brain to provide, feeling the words you’ve listed. By doing this, you’re training your brain to automatically feel those things when you arrive at the event.

Once you’ve broken the confidence barrier in one area, reapply this strategy to another area you know you need a boost. Remember, the more you practice something, the stronger your brain becomes in providing what you want. This isn’t some woo-woo garbage I’ve thrown together to make you *think* you can overcome any self-esteem problems, it’s a proven method of creating new neural pathways in your brain.