Five steps that changed my life (and can change yours)

Everything is mindset. Straight up:

The women who succeed in big ways decide to change the way they think.

They choose to believe they can do it and invest in their own futures, not just financially – but mentally too.

They make the choice that no matter the external circumstances, they will win in the end.

The trouble sometimes is most women are raised to stay out of the spotlight and instead help others. We nurture. We take care of everyone around us at our own expense.

We don’t show up bigger than other people in our lives, have strong opinions or create controversy, for fear of what they might think (or say about us). And we certainly don’t pat ourselves on the back.

But as an entrepreneur?

That shit has got to go.

You cannot sell if you aren’t in the spotlight.

You cannot show up as your best self for your business or your clients if you are exhausted from taking care of everyone else and never taking care of you.

You cannot build a business if you are the first one to step aside because you’re afraid of what other people may or may not think.

And you absolutely cannot continue to excel, rise, succeed if you don’t recognize your accomplishments and celebrate them every damn step of the way.

Stop criticizing yourself.

Stop the self-flagellation. (It’s patently unattractive.)

Stop the perpetuation of “not enough” or “too much.”

The path to everything you ever wanted? Starts with putting yourself first by changing the way you think.

The five steps that changed my life, and that of thousands of women I’ve worked with all over the world:

  • Step 1 – Say goodbye to your ego.
  • Step 2 – Step into the driver’s seat.
  • Step 3 – Change your thoughts.
  • Step 4 – Enter the judgement-free zone.
  • Step 5 – Get to the finish line.

I’ve compiled a 3-hour training and a meaty workbook about how to pull apart each of those steps and drill down your thoughts, so you begin to see how easy it is to change from within.

These are simple, tried and true exercises to help you shape the way you think, shift your beliefs and put your ass back in control of your life.

Cool, right?

An open letter to Simon Sinek…

Just like you, I wake up every day inspiring people to do what inspires them.

I know you’re on a mission to create a new industry to show people how to help others. (I’ve seen the memes and videos about wanting a “Help Others” section in bookstores.)

My question is: What if the answer to helping others IS self-help?

Doing good feels good.
And when you feel good, you do more good.
More and more empathy comes when you feel good.
It’s an upward spiral of feel-good chemicals.

In fact, your TEDTalk and your highly successful programs all came from your own journey of self-help.

You’ve spoken about how pretending to be happy, hating your life (though you had things that “should” make you happy), led to depression and isolation.

You took an inward journey to find your passion again. Your WHY.

 And that thing you discovered became something to help other people with — but it was born out of you helping yourself. 

I imagine a world where everyone does exactly that.

I see self-help and development as the way to elevate us all. It changes the world.

Happy people make other people happy. Fact.

We are far more effective at sharing, giving and inspiring when we FEEL GOOD.

When we’re not pretending. Not feeling isolated and alone.

When we finally understand that self-help and self-care are not selfish, but actually SELFLESS.

Help yourself and you make a true and lasting impact on everyone else with that beautiful ripple effect.

In one of your videos, you spoke about how you want a world where people wake up happy every day, looking forward to going to work and coming home fulfilled.

I submit that fulfillment is an inside job. It starts and ends inside each of us.

The fact is you and I do the same work.

My job is helping people be the best version of themselves because it makes a happier planet. It frees people.

And people who feel good do good.

You said people take more risks and get more creative when they have trust.

What about learning to trust yourself?

What about getting so comfortable in your skin that you know you can handle anything?

What about knowing that whatever the world gives you, you can stand in who you are?

What about knowing you are enough?

Happy people make people happy.
People who feel good do good.
Helping yourself helps the planet.

Isn’t that inspiring as hell?

I’d love to chat with you about this.

– Becky