Set yourself on fire

Let’s talk about motivation.

It’s a simple concept on the surface.

But there are a couple myths I’d like to bust today.

#1 – You don’t lack it. In fact, it’s in your DNA.

Every human is motivated by either pleasure or pain. And most people are motivated by the latter.

Understand this first and self-motivation becomes infinitely easier.

Every circumstance involves choice. And all choices have consequences.

For example, choosing to not eat might lead to severe illness or even death. Or choosing to not shower EVER AGAIN might lead to fewer friends or even disease.

We don’t need to be motivated to feed our kids or practice good hygiene.

Yet, when it comes to live streaming, creating memes for Instagram or emailing prospects, you may find it harder to feel motivated.

Here’s how to make it easier: Look at the consequences of NOT doing something first. You’ll find an inner kick in the ass pretty quickly.

Bring the consequence, the PAIN of not doing it, to the forefront. Face reality and you will be more motivated.

#2 – Motivation is not something outside of you. You don’t get it from others, or from events or circumstances. It’s in your head.

You run your mind, not the other way around.

So let’s assume you’ve identified what you are not doing and you are now choosing to become motivated to do it.

Start by telling your mind you WANT to do it. You are choosing to do it. You LOVE doing it.

Your mind will absolutely give you the focus, energy and drive to see the task to completion.

#3 – Believe you can.

Self-doubt is, without question, the single largest issue among all the women I’ve worked with in more than a decade in this industry.

We don’t believe it’s possible for someone like us. It works for others, not us. We have to be special, and we aren’t.

That’s the fastest way to lose motivation, not to mention it tanks self-esteem.

So stop it.

Instead, tell yourself you can. That’s it’s fun and easy for you. That you will always figure it out.

Trust me, getting excited about your goals is the best way to feel amazing about what you do each and every day.

And who doesn’t want that?


– Becky

You get to choose

Happy New Year!

I was thinking about New Year’s resolutions for 2018, where we run wild with optimism: “This year I’m not screwing around,” fist raised high in the air.

And I realized my personal anti-resolution might help you keep yours.

I don’t believe in resolutions, for many reasons I won’t bore you with. But I DO believe in incremental daily change.

So, my anti-resolution looks like this: Make a daily, deliberate choice to be more present…

Notice five things I’m grateful for
Take a deep breath before speaking
Do something I’ve never done before
Organize my desk
Dole out five honest compliments (including to ME)
Look on the bright side
Expect the best, no matter what, all day

I love these exercises because we only take one day at a time, which is the key to fending off overwhelm and actually sticking to things.

You can do anything for one day.

You can even set an intention for a specific moment, like walking into a room. (I intend to go slowly and take it all in.) Or visiting a grouchy relative. (I intend to have compassion for my aunt who has had a hard life.)

If your resolution is to make more money, set an intention to do something that scares the crap out of you, to push you toward your financial goal today.

Daily intentions are extremely powerful — and super simple because they break things down into manageable chunks and make things fun.

We have countless things all around us in every moment where we can choose to be amazed, grateful, excited and in love.

All we have to do is remember to pay attention.

With so much love,