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Five steps that changed my life (and can change yours)

Everything is mindset. Straight up:

The women who succeed in big ways decide to change the way they think.

They choose to believe they can do it and invest in their own futures, not just financially – but mentally too.

They make the choice that no matter the external circumstances, they will win in the end.

The trouble sometimes is most women are raised to stay out of the spotlight and instead help others. We nurture. We take care of everyone around us at our own expense.

We don’t show up bigger than other people in our lives, have strong opinions or create controversy, for fear of what they might think (or say about us). And we certainly don’t pat ourselves on the back.

But as an entrepreneur?

That shit has got to go.

You cannot sell if you aren’t in the spotlight.

You cannot show up as your best self for your business or your clients if you are exhausted from taking care of everyone else and never taking care of you.

You cannot build a business if you are the first one to step aside because you’re afraid of what other people may or may not think.

And you absolutely cannot continue to excel, rise, succeed if you don’t recognize your accomplishments and celebrate them every damn step of the way.

Stop criticizing yourself.

Stop the self-flagellation. (It’s patently unattractive.)

Stop the perpetuation of “not enough” or “too much.”

The path to everything you ever wanted? Starts with putting yourself first by changing the way you think.

The five steps that changed my life, and that of thousands of women I’ve worked with all over the world:

  • Step 1 – Say goodbye to your ego.
  • Step 2 – Step into the driver’s seat.
  • Step 3 – Change your thoughts.
  • Step 4 – Enter the judgement-free zone.
  • Step 5 – Get to the finish line.

I’ve compiled a 3-hour training and a meaty workbook about how to pull apart each of those steps and drill down your thoughts, so you begin to see how easy it is to change from within.

These are simple, tried and true exercises to help you shape the way you think, shift your beliefs and put your ass back in control of your life.

Cool, right?

4 Money Mindset Tips to Help You Believe and Receive

Money isn’t a dirty word. If you tell yourself it’s just a means to an end, you need to begin transforming your money mindset. You get what you believe you can have.

Here are four tips to start the shift.

1 – Lack is Dangerous

Do your beliefs help or hinder your success?

When you think of money, which words come up?

Poverty, deficiency and scarcity? Or abundance, growth and joy?

From an early age, we’re taught to be wise about spending habits. It’s a lesson we shouldn’t ignore, but we often take this mindset too far.

If you’ve ever told yourself you can’t buy something because you’re afraid spending will lead to later problems, you’re living in lack. It’s dangerous.

Success is not just a state of being.

If you tell yourself you can’t afford something or you fear the consequences of investing in your future, you will never reach or maintain the level of success you want. But if you tell yourself you are successful, you send shock waves into the Universe. And, dude, the Universe always responds.

It’s not uncommon to hear about people who reached their goals, but shortly after struggled. Maybe they spend their earnings too quickly because they fear they can’t maintain their success. This is because they do not believe in themselves or their potential. They live in a place of lack: they lack confidence and the ability to see themselves as successes in the long-term.

Believe in your life-long success and you will begin to live the lifestyle of successful people.

 

#2 – Money is a gift

If you view money as a way to connect with others, you will begin to appreciate your relationship with it.

When you pay someone, do not think of how much more work you will have to do to replenish your bank account. Instead, think of how you’ve nourished their world. You’ve given them the gift of wealth and, in turn, appreciation.

Viewing money in a loving way, instead of a means to an end, helps you stay positive and spend wisely. It’s not good enough to see it as a gift when you receive. You also need to be thankful when you to provide.

 

#3 – You have a relationship with money

Our successful relationships come when we nurture and grow them. We nurture relationships with our families, friends and lovers. It’s no different with money.

If we love it and continuously work toward bettering that relationship, our thoughts and actions around money also become better, full of love and appreciation.

To fix your relationship with money, approach it like a breakup. What can you do better?

Ask yourself:

Am I currently living in a place of lack or abundance?

How do I want to feel about money?

What would I do if money weren’t an obstacle (how or what would I contribute to the world)?

Then remind yourself you deserve to live the life you want now.

Money can help you get there. But in order for it to serve you, you must begin believing you can and will give the world your gifts. And you must nurture your relationship with money, debunking any negative feelings you have around it.

Believe and receive, babe. It’s up to you to determine whether or not you’re receiving positive or negative vibes from the Universe.

 

#4 – Fake it ‘til you make it

If you want to be successful and shift your mindset, you need to pretend you’re already living the lifestyle you want.

This does not mean frivolously spending your money. It means believing you have enough and you are deserving enough to use it.

Imagine yourself as wealthy and abundant. Start dressing the part: wear the clothes you love and ditch what makes you feel broke.

De-clutter your life and anything that is no longer useful. If you’ve kept an old crockpot around for fear your new one might break, it’s time to get rid of it. Anything taking up space that isn’t useful or serving a purpose should go.

Have a garage sale, donate to charity or trash it. The less crap you have sitting around reminding you of your lack mindset, the easier it is to get away from it. Plus a clean room feels better.

 

To begin shifting your mindset, start with the four tips listed here. Once you feel more confident about loving money, hit me up and tell me how great it feels to ditch the fear and lack and start something new and filled with possibility.

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