Five steps that changed my life (and can change yours)

Everything is mindset. Straight up:

The women who succeed in big ways decide to change the way they think.

They choose to believe they can do it and invest in their own futures, not just financially – but mentally too.

They make the choice that no matter the external circumstances, they will win in the end.

The trouble sometimes is most women are raised to stay out of the spotlight and instead help others. We nurture. We take care of everyone around us at our own expense.

We don’t show up bigger than other people in our lives, have strong opinions or create controversy, for fear of what they might think (or say about us). And we certainly don’t pat ourselves on the back.

But as an entrepreneur?

That shit has got to go.

You cannot sell if you aren’t in the spotlight.

You cannot show up as your best self for your business or your clients if you are exhausted from taking care of everyone else and never taking care of you.

You cannot build a business if you are the first one to step aside because you’re afraid of what other people may or may not think.

And you absolutely cannot continue to excel, rise, succeed if you don’t recognize your accomplishments and celebrate them every damn step of the way.

Stop criticizing yourself.

Stop the self-flagellation. (It’s patently unattractive.)

Stop the perpetuation of “not enough” or “too much.”

The path to everything you ever wanted? Starts with putting yourself first by changing the way you think.

The five steps that changed my life, and that of thousands of women I’ve worked with all over the world:

  • Step 1 – Say goodbye to your ego.
  • Step 2 – Step into the driver’s seat.
  • Step 3 – Change your thoughts.
  • Step 4 – Enter the judgement-free zone.
  • Step 5 – Get to the finish line.

I’ve compiled a 3-hour training and a meaty workbook about how to pull apart each of those steps and drill down your thoughts, so you begin to see how easy it is to change from within.

These are simple, tried and true exercises to help you shape the way you think, shift your beliefs and put your ass back in control of your life.

Cool, right?

Who inspires you?

My youngest son was born in 14 minutes.

The cord was wrapped around his neck three times, so I didn’t really have a choice about the speed at which he needed to arrive. It gave the phrase ‘do or die’ some significance.

The nurse plopped him on my chest for about 1.5 seconds before whisking him off to the NICU.

He’s 15 now and fine.

But the way he arrived into this world set the tone for nearly every day of his existence since then.

Something inside guides him to do what the rest of us don’t. Or what we believe we can’t. Do or die.

I talk about him pretty frequently in my private community, MORE. And it occurred to me today that while it’s far from abnormal to brag about your kid, it is highly unusual to use a 15 year old as an example for how to do life. (Particularly in a community of women.)

So what makes him so special? Why should anyone who isn’t his mother see inspiration?

I could wax poetic about his accomplishments in sports and academics all day. And yes, they would blow your mind. But that’s not it by half.

Skill can be learned. Knowledge can be attained. Those are available to all of us.

The things that surprise me most come from some place else entirely.

He doesn’t ask if he is too big or small, too slow or fast, too smart or not at all.

He doesn’t wonder if he will be loved if he is free.

He doesn’t ask what the world wants from him or of him.

He doesn’t stop unfolding to make other people comfortable.

He just decides what he wants to achieve and then makes it happen.

He works on it until it’s complete to his standards, never asking anyone else if it’s good enough. He relies on an internal barometer to measure self-worth – and nothing and no one can stop him (I’ve tried) until he has reached what he’s after.

It’s all very uncomplicated.

Prioritize. Clarify. Move.

See more happy? Go be it.

Perhaps the most inspiring thing the boy does is to remind me that we are all capable of living this way: Comfortable in our skin, pursuing our passion and feeling great, if we can only let go of expectations in favor of our hearts.

Who inspires you and why?

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