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How to Make your Mindset Matter

It’s easy to get bogged down in the daily bullshit of entrepreneurship.

Yes, I’ve had many days when I felt giantly annoyed by bits of my business. Working alone can be – well – lonely, and having nobody to bounce ideas off of made my passion feel like work.

Nobody who works for themselves wants that.

That is, of course, until I started actively noticing my mindset: the way I’ve trained my brain to make me feel.

The good news?

You always have a choice. In it, your outlook can shift immediately: from half of your vodka tonic gone to a celebration of the second half of your cocktail.

If you’re wondering why you went into business for yourself at all, it’s time to start asking yourself some questions…

Do you love what you do?

What are you willing to give up to be a success?

Can you identify and then immediately stop mind-fucking yourself?

It’s all about attitude, ladies, and I’m here to be your fairy godmother of perspective.

If this business you’ve already invested time, money and heart into is the only one you see in your future, then you MUST stop talking about it like it’s your annoying sister. Because, as we’ve all seen, the power of our self-talk, and our beliefs in potential and progress, are what get us through those days when you just want to quit.

Ready to choose happiness, fulfillment and ease?

Use the right words.

Statements like, “I have the solution,” instead of “I have a problem,” or “Money flows to me freely,” to replace, “Money is the devil,” need to be added to your daily conversations. Simply changing your language helps you get over a lot of the crap on your own. Crazily enough, you’ll notice that the more positive your language, the more puppy-dogs and ice cream your life becomes.

Unsure about this? It’s not going to hurt to try, right? Change your language for a week. If your mood doesn’t change, if life doesn’t seem easier, then you can always go back to being blah.

Be warned, those around you will notice this shift and get a mojo boost. If you decide to move backwards after, be prepared for a shit-storm of people leaving you behind because – suddenly – you’re killing their vibe (which leads me to tip #2).

Keep good company.

If your friends have a shitty outlook, you’re going to have one too. We take on the energy and habits of those around us, so if your bestie from high school has been a real buzz-kill for the last five years, she’s probably bringing you down.

Gossip whores? Don’t even get me started.

I’m not implying you need to drop every friend you think could use an attitude adjustment. But I am cautioning you to watch how your mood changes around people and then choose very wisely who you spend most of your time with.

If you can create a positive, successful clan to keep up with, you’re giving yourself a dose of positivity without doing much else. Of course, if you know there is someone you need to cut loose, there’s no reason not to.

Do what makes you happy.

When you can identify what activities and situations alter your mood (for good or bad), you’ll be able to decide which to invest in. This becomes particularly important as your business grows. If you hate keeping track of your books or think sending autoresponders is a time suck, you can absolutely hire someone else to take over those tasks for you.

But this also applies to daily life. Love yoga? Cool, do it more. Hate showering in the morning? Who says you have to?

Then when the funk of work seeps in (I hope you’ve showered at some point), you’ll know what’s instantly going to alter your mood. It’s not rocket science, ladies: if you do more of what you love, you’re going to be happier. This means that you make the choice to do it more, even on the shitty days.

Me? I buy animals. My house has rabbits, dogs, cats, and – now – a handsome horse named Joseph. Being around and taking care of them is my therapy, and I have the space for them, so why not?

Appreciate what you have.

Start a gratitude practice, whether that be writing in a journal or meditating. Every day, think of what you are grateful for: your family, friends, career, etc. Then think of what made you appreciative that day whether it’s an early burst of energy to get the job done or a message from the Universe.

By thinking of what you appreciate, you’re shifting your mindset to the positive things happening in your life. And, yes, you can do this on the worst day you’ve ever had, even if you say you’re thankful you were able to inhale and exhale.

Shifting your mindset takes practice, but it doesn’t have to be hard (again, it’s all about perspective). If you don’t want the negativity birds to nest, don’t give ‘em the scraps and weeds to build.


– Becky

P.S. If you are struggling to build a new online business, or have been in business for a year or two but aren’t getting the traction you hoped for, I’ve put together several free masterclasses for you.

In this special series of trainings, we’re going to cover things like pricing, packaging, social media, confidence, creating opt-ins, finding clients, copywriting — and MINDSET.

Need some help with any of that? Then click here to add yourself to the list. We start TOMORROW!

How Networking Brings You Bank

Are your Facebook posts hearing crickets?

You put you and your company out there, attempting visibility through vulnerable posts asking for business, but nobody – literally zero people — respond to your magic.

Damn that feels like rejection.

But, more importantly, for entrepreneurs who are surviving on sales, it means your lifeline just got cut.

Networking? It’s NOT for schmoozers or old-school dudes in suits.

It’s for you, gorgeous (and it gets results fast).

Here’s how to handle networking #likeaboss.

Tip 1: Don’t have hidden motives

What’s the real reason you used your Facebook page as a billboard?

Because you didn’t want to make real connections.

Yes, networking exists so we can get more clients. But just like every other area of business, if people in your network only believe that you seek advice to promote yourself, or that you see them as money instead of humans, they will not work with you.

People want connections.

We want to feel understood and heard and appreciated, and the companies who are best at convincing consumers they are their friends are the ones who are most successful. Because we buy based on emotion, not logic, so people who feel invested in will invest in you (which brings me to tip 2).

Tip 2: No one has ever become poor by giving

Anne Frank (the woman who first coined the words in tip 2) knew her shit (and mindset shift). The perspective we should all take is the worst thing an aspiring entrepreneur can do is be too stingy with their knowledge.

Let go of the reigns a bit, otherwise you’ll paralyze yourself.

By providing information, you position yourself as an expert and – bonus – show you want to help people. They appreciate and trust you. Rapport is one of the biggest sellers for moguls, and they didn’t get that title by keeping their mouths shut in fear someone else will steal their mojo. Plus, giving feels good (and instantly gives you the happies).

When I was preparing for the inaugural launch of CCC, I spent fifteen hours online each day, answering questions and providing free business coaching in groups like the Entrepreneur Incubator. By doing this, I showed up: proving I had the chops to run a group program and met a lot of other amazing women who have referred me their friends, even if they weren’t ready to work with me. Oh, and I’ve found plenty of women I’ve spent money on after I learned they were bosses in their industries.

I could save blog posts for my paying clients, but how can I get people to sign on when they don’t know how fucking awesome I am?

Tip 3: Be Yourself

While there might be thousands of other coaches who offer the same services as you, nobody does it the exact same way as you. Being yourself, telling your truth, is what differentiates you (an automatic way to set yourself apart).

It takes seven interactions with a potential client for them to feel trust in you.

That means seven conversations or content shares, or a mix of both. If you haven’t been your true self with them every time you’ve talked, they’ll pick up on discrepancies.

Think about it in terms of dating: People pretend to be someone else in order to impress their potential partner. However, over the course of several dates, someone starts to realize you aren’t being yourself (maybe you loved steak on your first date but later said you were a vegetarian, or something less obvious but just as contradictory).

Don’t lie about who you are. Embrace it. Don’t give people a reason to question your credibility. It’s just not worth it.

Networking skills become more complex from here, but I guarantee everyone who is killing it on social media is also pretty perfect at hitting these three first. Have a networking question or additional tip you’d like to add? Head over to my Facebook Group, Tune In. Turn On, and tag me.

– Becky

P.S. If you are struggling to build a new online business, or have been in business for a year or two but aren’t getting the traction you hoped for, I’ve put together several free masterclasses for you.

We start Nov 5th – IN THREE DAYS.

In this special series of LIVE trainings, we cover things like pricing, packaging, social media, confidence, creating opt-ins, finding clients and even copywriting.

Need some help with any of that? Then click here to add yourself to the list.