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Study Failure

Today, we continue on the journey of self-mastery. It’s time for tool #5 in my arsenal for developing a bulletproof success mindset.

This month-long experience – dubbed #30daystorise – was created to arm you with the knowledge and skills necessary to become the industry leader and dominant force you say you want to be as a woman entrepreneur.

Tool #5: Study failure

“Instead of looking for success, make a list of how to fail instead – through sloth, envy,
resentment, self-pity, entitlement, all the mental habits of self-defeat. Avoid these 
qualities and you will succeed.” – Charlie Munger

The point?

Any idiot can see what’s not working and where to improve.

Precious few have the ability to be honest about how they self-sabotage, act like victims or participate in their own failure.

And frankly, how many people online today are shouting from the rooftops that they have the “right” thing to get you to the next level?

Stop looking outside of you for the answer.

Instead, take a hard look at all the things we shouldn’t do. Let’s pay attention to where we’ve gone off track in the past. How have we screwed up?

Study your failures, dig up the reasons for the failures, and commit to not making those mistakes again.

Then study the failures of others in your industry.

Eliminate those mistakes and you’ll be surprised at how much focus and clarity you gain. (Which leads to motivation, momentum and success.)

How to know if you are using this tool:

  • What are the mistakes people in your industry make that prevent them from getting the goal?
  • How many of those mistakes do you frequently commit?
  • Where do you sabotage yourself?
  • Why do you keep repeating these mistakes/self-sabotage mechanisms?
  • What do you need to do now?

How to implement this tool:

  • Make a list of the most deadly mistakes.
  • Avoid them at all costs.

If fear, self-doubt and self-judgement are not on your list of mistakes, go back to the drawing board. Those three literally ARE deadly. They decapitate motivation, make you feel like crap, convince you that you cannot do it and prevent you from moving forward.

– Becky

P.S. We’ve already received more than a dozen applications for Game-Changer, my brand new 12-week program where I help you create your blueprint for a bulletproof success mindset. Seats are VERY limited. We start April 8. Go check it out.

Walk your talk

I’m back with the fourth tool inside #30daystorise.

This month-long experience was created to arm you with the knowledge and skills necessary to become the industry leader and dominant force you say you want to be as a woman entrepreneur.

Today’s tool comes down to one thing: The truth is you know how to lead, you are an expert and your bullshit fear is holding you back.

Now let’s get into it. Here’s the difference between a poser and a leader…

Tool #4: Walk your talk

For every 100 self-proclaimed leaders in this industry, 98 are full of shit.

They preach one way to live, but do not actually practice it in their day-to-day lives. In essence, they tell you to do a bunch of shit they don’t do.

If you’re going to be a true leader, instead of a preacher, your edge must come from leading first by example.

This doesn’t mean you’re perfect. No one is, and pretending to be perfect is the antithesis of what I’m talking about.

Your ability to be a flawed human who still tries to improve every day – and who chooses to show that publicly – makes the difference. That gives you an edge. Because precious few are willing or able to pull that off.

The buzzwords here are authenticity and commitment.

Let’s face it: In a world where everyone pretends to be someone they aren’t in order to fit in, it can be fucking exhausting to actually choose to be yourself and feel good about it.

Your commitment to excellence, your standards, your relentless drive toward being better than you were yesterday has to be tangible. Raw and real.

You have to be a living, breathing example of what you stand for.

This is what sets you apart.

And people feel, see, and sense it when they are around you.

How to know if you have this tool:

  • How closely do you monitor your emotions and habits for patterns that don’t serve you as a leader?
  • How often do you coach yourself? Are you choosing thoughts and feelings that inspire you to take action toward your vision?
  • Do you set daily intentions?

How to implement this tool:

  • Spend at least one hour per day on yourself. What’s your morning and/or evening mindset routine? Where’s the commitment to improving?
  • Evaluate your strengths and weaknesses regularly. Call yourself on your own shit. (Self-judgement and self-doubt are weaknesses. I’ll be talking about this on today’s live stream.)
  • Decide what you intend, your vision or dream. And then choose – moment to moment – to be the woman who has those things NOW. How would she handle this? What does she focus on each day?

Feel the pressure of being leader? It’s real.

Leadership is not always glamorous and sexy. It comes to people who do the work and align to the goal.

You want followers? Give them something – BE someone – to follow.

Start by being yourself and then consistently evaluate. It’s hard to trust (even respect) people who are full of shit.

Luckily, you know better.

Inside GAME-CHANGER, my new three-month program, I give you the blueprint for how to live like a true leader: The woman with the highest standards, best practices and bulletproof mindset, who gets results on her terms.

Because once you master yourself, and commit to showing up as you 100% of the time, you can’t lose.

We start April 8. Go check it out.

– Becky

P.S. Game-Changer will show you how to release excuses, build sustainable habits to take ownership of your life, your business, your money and much more. Plus I’ll show you how to master your mindset, maximize flow and performance and FEEL LIKE A FUCKING BOSS. Seats are limited and there is an application process.