The most powerful thing you’re not doing for your business

Why is something so seemingly simple – believing in yourself – the most difficult for most of us?

Because we live in a world where we’re taught to be humble, to be appreciative of others and value ourselves for what we’ve done — but not what we’re destined to do.

All of that can hinder our ability to truly tap into our potential. Instead, we end up avoiding the limelight, in fear we’ll be seen as selfish or boastful.

I don’t exactly know where the line is between being too proud and being proud enough, but most of us never get close to it.

We don’t give ourselves the chance to celebrate our own successes.

And because of that, we don’t believe in ourselves enough.

  • Staying in a job you hate because you’re not sure you can hack it as an entrepreneur.
  • Feeling bad about taking time to do something for yourself, instead of only devoting time to your family. It’s not really that big of a deal to take a shower instead of that bath you’ve been dreaming of for weeks. It can wait, right?
  • Wearing cheap shoes to avoid judgment from people in your life who knew you before your income increased.

These are ways we show we’re uncomfortable with earning, with our potential and ourselves.

It’s really fucking hard to do well in business when you carry these negative beliefs. If you don’t believe you’re special – that you can do something no one else can – why the hell would anyone want to do business with you?

So let’s get comfortable with success and dreams.

Once you do, you’ll be amazed at what you’re capable of reaching in your career and your personal life.

Start by making a list of times you were stronger than you imagined you could be. On the same page, write when you were more successful than you ever dreamed. When did you reach your goals?

Next, write two times you failed, and then picked your sweet ass up and carried on.

Detail the biggest compliment you’ve ever received. What three skills are you most proud of?

On a second sheet of paper, write every self-doubt you have.

Once you’re done, hang the positive moments somewhere you will see them daily.

Read them. Every. Damn. Day.

And burn the page with all the negative beliefs. Really. Burn it.

Release your fears, your sadness, your insecurities and self-doubt. Giving yourself permission to rid yourself of negativity will set you free to focus on what you’re doing well.

And when you know what you’re worth, so will your clients.

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Did you know we designed a 12-week program that tackles mindset issues for entrepreneurs and shows you how to bust through blocks, get clients and make money?

Check out Clarity, Clients & Cash. You can’t even buy it yet. But I wanted you to see what’s coming so you’re not surprised when we open and close the doors at the end of the month. It always fills up super fast.

Here’s what’s up…

I’ve worked with thousands of women entrepreneurs all over the world. My goal, my mission, was, is and always will be to empower and give you the skills to explode your online businesses.

For years, I did this in a variety of ways, from one-on-one coaching to courses, from free advice in my Facebook communities to training series and webinars.

Here’s what I learned: It wasn’t enough.

Some women took the information and ran, building 6- and 7-figure businesses. Others did not.

So why could some use my FREE advice to shift their businesses in days – and make tens of thousands of dollars – while others paid me well for advice and didn’t follow through?

That was the question I set out to answer.

Note: Some people in my groups grabbed freebies like they were starved but did nothing with them. (That’s not the right kind of hunger.)

What I discovered prompted me to re-create a program and community, while falling in love with my purpose all over again.

And let me tell you, I’ve never been so lit up about anything in my life.

But before I get to that, back to the question.

These are highly-intelligent and motivated women. So lack of 7-figure success was not about brains or willingness to work.

I shared the same information, spilling all my secrets, with every client. My team and I created the websites, curated the copy, wrote social media posts, hired experts to teach them how to position themselves and more.

So what was missing?

What I discovered was it always came down to one thing – and ONLY one thing…

BELIEF.

The women who succeeded in big ways decided to change the way they thought.

They chose to believe they could do it and invested in their own futures, not just financially – not all the time – but mentally too.

They made the choice that no matter the external circumstances, they would win in the end.

See, most women are raised to stay out of the spotlight and help others. We nurture. We take care of everyone around us at our own expense.

We don’t show up bigger than other people in our lives. We don’t have strong opinions or create controversy, for fear of what other people might think.

And we certainly don’t pat ourselves on the back.

But as an entrepreneur? That shit has got to go.

You cannot sell if you aren’t in the spotlight.

You cannot show up as your best self for your business or your clients if you are exhausted from taking care of everyone else and never taking care of you.

You cannot build a business if you are the first one to step aside because you’re afraid of what other people may or may not think.

And you absolutely cannot continue to excel, rise, succeed, if you don’t recognize your accomplishments and celebrate them every damn step of the way.

Stop criticizing yourself.

Stop the self-flagellation.

Stop the perpetuation of not enough or too much.

The path to everything you ever wanted? Starts with putting yourself first by changing the way you think.

And I’m going to prove it to you…in my next email. (This one is way too long already.)

– Becky

P.S. The new program and community I mentioned? I’ll tell you more tomorrow. And it will undoubtedly be worth the wait.