They sold you healing like a cure.

What they didn’t tell you is they need you broken to stay in business.

Mainstream coaching thrives on your perpetual brokenness, packaging “healing” as an endless journey where you’re forever chasing wholeness but never quite arriving.

They’ve built empires on your trauma, convincing you that your wounds need gentle care, endless processing and constant attention.

Bullshit.

Your wounds aren’t delicate flowers to be watered with gratitude journals and affirmation practices. They’re not treasures to be displayed in sharing circles where everyone competes for who’s most damaged.

I watched a client spend three years with a “trauma-informed” coach who kept her locked in processing loops, revisiting her childhood pain weekly. Three years of “honoring her wounds.” Three years of being the eternally broken one. Three years of paying someone to keep her stuck.

That’s not healing. That’s wound worship.

And it’s a f*cking business model.

You know how I know? I was that coach once. I kept clients in those loops because I was taught that’s what healing looked like: endless introspection, constant processing, perpetual pain exploration.

Here’s what they don’t want you to see… The coaching industry has monetized your brokenness and rebranded it as “the healing journey.”

Every time you hear:

• “This takes time”
• “Healing isn’t linear”
• “You’ll always be working on yourself”

Translate it: “Keep paying me forever.”

The wound-worship paradigm positions you as permanently damaged, always in need of another workshop, another program, another fucking breakthrough session.

They’ve built a religion around trauma where the only sin is thinking you’re done healing.

My approach? We don’t heal wounds. We forge weapons.

Your trauma isn’t your cross to bear. It’s the fire that tempers your blade.

Your darkness isn’t something to process endlessly. It’s power waiting to be unleashed.

When you come to me feeling broken, I don’t see someone who needs years of gentle healing circles. I see raw material for something dangerous.

A client came to me after four coaches and six years of “trauma work.” She’d been taught to cradle her abandonment issues like a sick child. Within three months with me, she’d transformed that abandonment into radical self-reliance that terrified everyone around her.

She didn’t heal her wound. She weaponized it.

The mainstream wants you soft, vulnerable, and eternally processing. They want you identifying as your trauma, wearing your diagnosis like a personality.

I want you lethal.

Stop worshipping at the altar of your wounds.

Stop paying people to keep you broken.

Your darkness isn’t something to overcome. It’s something to unleash.

The wound-worship coaches need you broken to validate their existence.

I need you dangerous to validate mine.

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Don’t know where to start? Right here. The Trauma Paradox is the gateway to weaponizing wounds, and to no longer trying to “fix” something that was only ever there to empower you. We don’t worship wounds here. We weaponize them. #TraumaAsWeapon