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THE BRUTAL TRUTH ABOUT NERVOUS SYSTEM HEALING

Ever wondered why healing your f*cked-up nervous system feels like wandering through a minefield blindfolded? Yeah. Me too.

Let me rip the mask off this “gentle journey” bullshit and show you the blood-soaked reality of what’s actually happening.

THE TRIGGER LABYRINTH

Your dysregulated system isn’t just “sensitive” – it’s a goddamn chaos engine running on corrupted code.

External triggers, internal triggers, shit you don’t even recognize as triggers… They’re everywhere, invisible and lethal.

You try some healing practice that should work and your body locks up in freeze or floods with anxiety. You did everything “right” and still got knocked on your ass.

And women? Your hormonal cycles aren’t just “challenging,” they’re brutal resurrection rituals every month. Your bleeding depletes minerals and water, stripping away resources your nervous system desperately needs to hold itself together.

This isn’t weakness. It’s biological warfare against your own stability.

Clarity doesn’t come from trying harder. It comes from surrendering to the monster inside you that’s been keeping score all along.

YOUR RATIONAL MIND IS THE ENEMY

Your thinking brain believes it can logic its way through trauma. This is a f*cking lie. A big one.

Regulation isn’t a cognitive process. It’s primal, instinctual, buried in your brainstem and viscera. Your rational mind is the jailer, not the liberator. (Read that again.)

True healing happens when you stop “doing” regulation and start allowing the savage intelligence of your body to reclaim its power.

Your system doesn’t need more control. It needs permission to remember what it knew before the world broke you.

THE CRUEL NONLINEARITY

Healing isn’t a straight line. It’s a bloody spiral through darkness.

You’ll taste freedom, then get dragged back into the pit.

You’ll feel powerful, then collapse under the weight of old patterns.

This isn’t failure. It’s the brutal reality of transformation.

The momentum builds only when your system accumulates new resources: clarity carved from chaos, attunement born from ashes, somatic capacity forged in fire, and the refined perception that comes from staring into the void without flinching.

TIME IS NOT YOUR ENEMY

You want it fixed now. Yesterday. Ten years ago before it all went to hell.

Wake up. Your system spent decades building fortress walls and digging trenches. Why the f*ck would years of accumulated survival patterns dissolve overnight?

Healing takes time because your nervous system is rewriting its core operating system while still running all primary functions. It’s not being slow to spite you. It’s doing impossible work, without shutting down completely.

Patience isn’t weakness. It’s strategic violence against the systems that tried to break you.

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THE OVERWHELM IS THE POINT

That intensity crushing you? The symptoms flooding your awareness? The feeling of drowning in your own neurochemistry? This isn’t the system failing. It’s the system speaking its truth.

Healing means living in the brutal space between old patterns (triggers, symptoms, collapse) and new capacity (stability, awareness, power). This transition isn’t gentle. It’s a war zone where past and future battle for control of your present.

STOP SEEKING VALIDATION FROM THE BLIND

The people around you will never fully understand the depths of your experience. This isn’t their fault. They can only meet you as deeply as they’ve met themselves.

Stop looking for validation from those who haven’t descended into their own darkness. Their approval isn’t the prize. Your savage self-validation is.

MORE ANGER, MORE EXHAUSTION IS THE VICTORY

Shouldn’t healing mean less anger and more energy?

F*ck no.

As your system stabilizes, it gains the strength to feel what was too dangerous to feel before. Those waves of rage, grief and bone-deep exhaustion aren’t signs of failure. They’re buried truths finally strong enough to surface.

This isn’t regression. It’s resurrection.

HEALING ISN’T YOUR FULL-TIME JOB

The endless vigilance – tracking triggers, practicing regulation, monitoring patterns – will burn you to ash if you make it your entire existence.

Healing isn’t a 24/7 crusade. Sometimes the most powerful move is to stop trying so damn hard and let your system integrate on its own terms.

THE DARK TRUTH

Healing isn’t about getting it right. It’s about meeting the monster they tried to kill in you – again and again and again.

Even when it feels like you’re drowning in quicksand, your system is fighting for your life.

Every moment of raw attunement, every pause between the chaos, and every breath of fierce self-compassion is reshaping your neural landscape.

You’re not behind.

You’re not broken.

You’re a weapon being forged in fire.

And the heat is necessary.

What Coaches Get Wrong About Trauma (And How to Get It Right)

Let’s cut the bullshit: most coaches aren’t trauma-informed, even if they think they are. Just knowing trauma exists and hoping for the best isn’t enough.

Your clients deserve more. And if you’re serious about helping them, it’s time to get real about what trauma-informed coaching actually means.

First, let’s break down the difference between being trauma-aware and trauma-informed.

  • Trauma-aware: You know trauma exists. You might spot it in a client, and you avoid obvious mistakes like pushing too hard or minimizing their experience.
  • Trauma-informed: You know how to recognize trauma responses, support your clients in real time without causing harm, and protect your own energy in the process.

One is passive. The other is a skillset that changes how you coach on every level.

Trauma-informed coaching isn’t about fixing or diagnosing your clients. It’s about knowing how to hold space for what’s coming up – without making it worse for them or draining yourself.

Holding Space Without Soaking Up Your Client’s Energy

If you’ve ever left a session feeling completely wiped out – or worse, like you’re carrying your client’s emotions around for days – you’re not alone.

This happens because you haven’t been taught how to hold space without taking on someone else’s energy.

It’s not about caring less. It’s about grounding and releasing so you can stay fully present without burning out.

Here’s how:

  1. Ground yourself before every session. This doesn’t have to be complicated. Plant your feet on the floor. Take a deep breath. Picture your energy staying anchored and steady.
  2. Release what isn’t yours. I like to imagine shaking off everything that doesn’t belong to me, like dirt off my boots. It’s simple but powerful.

These little rituals can save you from the emotional hangover that comes from taking on too much. They’ll help you show up stronger for your clients without sacrificing yourself in the process.

Why Trauma-Informed Coaching Matters More Than Ever

Here’s the truth: Clients are craving deeper work. They’re no longer satisfied with surface-level mindset shifts or generic advice.

They want real transformation, and if you’re not trauma-informed, you’re missing an opportunity to meet them at that level.

That’s exactly why I created my Trauma-Informed Coaching Certification.

This isn’t just another coaching course full of theory and buzzwords. It’s a 10-week deep dive into practical tools you can use right away. You’ll learn how to recognize trauma in the moment, respond effectively, and protect your own energy while doing the work.

What you’ll walk away with:

  • Confidence in handling whatever comes up in a session without panicking or second-guessing yourself
  • Tools to help your clients regulate their nervous systems (even when they’re spinning out)
  • A deeper understanding of how trauma shows up in coaching and what to do about it

If you’ve been feeling like there’s something missing in your coaching, this is probably it. 

Trauma-informed work takes your practice from good to life-changing—for you and your clients.

What’s Next?

The coaching industry is changing fast. More clients are seeking trauma-informed coaches. And more coaches are realizing they need these tools to stay relevant and effective. If you’re ready to stop guessing and start coaching at a deeper level, this certification is your next step.

Click here to learn more and enroll.

Final Word

Being trauma-informed isn’t about having all the answers. It’s about knowing how to hold space, how to respond with compassion and clarity, and how to protect your own energy so you can keep doing this work without burning out.

If that resonates with you, it’s time to take the next step.

The next cohort begins Feb. 27. Join us.