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The Book The Wellness Industry Doesn’t Want You to Read

I’m about to say something that will piss off every gratitude journal peddler and manifestation coach:

You don’t need to feel grateful to heal.

You don’t need to be positive.

You don’t need to transcend your difficulties.

You can notice morning light is beautiful, while still struggling with depression. You can be moved by the complexity of taste, while dealing with anxiety. You can appreciate how your car engine works, while working through trauma.

This kind of wonder doesn’t gaslight your experience or demand that you minimize your pain. It simply adds dimension to your reality.

I wrote about a woman with chronic PTSD who’s drawn to watching water move – rivers, fountains, even sink faucets. She doesn’t understand why this helps. She doesn’t need to. Her nervous system knows something her conscious mind doesn’t.

There’s a man dealing with childhood trauma fascinated by how his car engine works. “It’s just mechanics,” he says. But something about witnessing complex systems functioning properly provides evidence that order is possible when his early experience taught him nothing was dependable.

These people are not forcing positivity or practicing gratitude. They’re allowing themselves to be moved by complexity and beauty that exist regardless of their personal struggles.

And that’s far from spiritual bypassing or toxic positivity. It’s practical neuroscience.

The wellness industry wants to sell you expensive practices and curated experiences. But you’re already unconsciously doing the work.

Every time you pause to notice steam rising from your cup. Every moment you’re transfixed by shifting light patterns. Every time you play that song again (you know the one). You’re giving your depleted attention systems exactly what they need.

Studies show five minutes of attention to natural beauty (which is BROADLY defined) can improve cognitive performance and reduce cortisol levels. But you don’t need five-minute practices or formal attention training. You need recognition that you’re already doing this work.

The world contains threat AND beauty.

Danger AND safety.

Pain AND pleasure.

Struggle AND wonder.

Your nervous system already knows this. The wellness industry just doesn’t want YOU to know you know it.

This is what my new book, “Already Healing,” is about. Not adding more to your plate. Not giving you practices to fail at. Just showing you the science behind what you’re already unconsciously brilliant at.

Get the book that calls bullshit on toxic positivity.

It was released quietly on Sept. 15 and, with only organic reach, it’s sitting at #42 on Amazon, last I checked.

That tells me people are craving affirmation of their inner knowing, and maybe a bit of innovation in how we evaluate our own intelligence.

Grab yours for $3.33.

P.S. I legally changed my name to Rebecca McKinnon earlier this year. But this place remains Rebecca T.Dickson Inc.

WOUND WORSHIP: THE COACHING INDUSTRY’S FAVORITE ADDICTION

They sold you healing like a cure.

What they didn’t tell you is they need you broken to stay in business.

Mainstream coaching thrives on your perpetual brokenness, packaging “healing” as an endless journey where you’re forever chasing wholeness but never quite arriving.

They’ve built empires on your trauma, convincing you that your wounds need gentle care, endless processing and constant attention.

Bullshit.

Your wounds aren’t delicate flowers to be watered with gratitude journals and affirmation practices. They’re not treasures to be displayed in sharing circles where everyone competes for who’s most damaged.

I watched a client spend three years with a “trauma-informed” coach who kept her locked in processing loops, revisiting her childhood pain weekly. Three years of “honoring her wounds.” Three years of being the eternally broken one. Three years of paying someone to keep her stuck.

That’s not healing. That’s wound worship.

And it’s a f*cking business model.

You know how I know? I was that coach once. I kept clients in those loops because I was taught that’s what healing looked like: endless introspection, constant processing, perpetual pain exploration.

Here’s what they don’t want you to see… The coaching industry has monetized your brokenness and rebranded it as “the healing journey.”

Every time you hear:

  • “This takes time”
  • “Healing isn’t linear”
  • “You’ll always be working on yourself”

Translate it: “Keep paying me forever.”

The wound-worship paradigm positions you as permanently damaged, always in need of another workshop, another program, another fucking breakthrough session.

They’ve built a religion around trauma where the only sin is thinking you’re done healing.

My approach? We don’t heal wounds. We forge weapons.

Your trauma isn’t your cross to bear. It’s the fire that tempers your blade.

Your darkness isn’t something to process endlessly. It’s power waiting to be unleashed.

When you come to me feeling broken, I don’t see someone who needs years of gentle healing circles. I see raw material for something dangerous.

A client came to me after four coaches and six years of “trauma work.” She’d been taught to cradle her abandonment issues like a sick child. Within three months with me, she’d transformed that abandonment into radical self-reliance that terrified everyone around her.

She didn’t heal her wound. She weaponized it.

The mainstream wants you soft, vulnerable, and eternally processing. They want you identifying as your trauma, wearing your diagnosis like a personality.

I want you lethal.

Stop worshipping at the altar of your wounds.

Stop paying people to keep you broken.

Your darkness isn’t something to overcome. It’s something to unleash.

The wound-worship coaches need you broken to validate their existence.

I need you dangerous to validate mine.


Don’t know where to start? Right here. The Trauma Paradox is the gateway to weaponizing wounds, and to no longer trying to “fix” something that was only ever there to empower you. We don’t worship wounds here. We weaponize them. #TraumaAsWeapon