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THE BRUTAL TRUTH ABOUT NERVOUS SYSTEM HEALING

Ever wondered why healing your f*cked-up nervous system feels like wandering through a minefield blindfolded? Yeah. Me too.

Let me rip the mask off this “gentle journey” bullshit and show you the blood-soaked reality of what’s actually happening.

THE TRIGGER LABYRINTH

Your dysregulated system isn’t just “sensitive” – it’s a goddamn chaos engine running on corrupted code.

External triggers, internal triggers, shit you don’t even recognize as triggers… They’re everywhere, invisible and lethal.

You try some healing practice that should work and your body locks up in freeze or floods with anxiety. You did everything “right” and still got knocked on your ass.

And women? Your hormonal cycles aren’t just “challenging,” they’re brutal resurrection rituals every month. Your bleeding depletes minerals and water, stripping away resources your nervous system desperately needs to hold itself together.

This isn’t weakness. It’s biological warfare against your own stability.

Clarity doesn’t come from trying harder. It comes from surrendering to the monster inside you that’s been keeping score all along.

YOUR RATIONAL MIND IS THE ENEMY

Your thinking brain believes it can logic its way through trauma. This is a f*cking lie. A big one.

Regulation isn’t a cognitive process. It’s primal, instinctual, buried in your brainstem and viscera. Your rational mind is the jailer, not the liberator. (Read that again.)

True healing happens when you stop “doing” regulation and start allowing the savage intelligence of your body to reclaim its power.

Your system doesn’t need more control. It needs permission to remember what it knew before the world broke you.

THE CRUEL NONLINEARITY

Healing isn’t a straight line. It’s a bloody spiral through darkness.

You’ll taste freedom, then get dragged back into the pit.

You’ll feel powerful, then collapse under the weight of old patterns.

This isn’t failure. It’s the brutal reality of transformation.

The momentum builds only when your system accumulates new resources: clarity carved from chaos, attunement born from ashes, somatic capacity forged in fire, and the refined perception that comes from staring into the void without flinching.

TIME IS NOT YOUR ENEMY

You want it fixed now. Yesterday. Ten years ago before it all went to hell.

Wake up. Your system spent decades building fortress walls and digging trenches. Why the f*ck would years of accumulated survival patterns dissolve overnight?

Healing takes time because your nervous system is rewriting its core operating system while still running all primary functions. It’s not being slow to spite you. It’s doing impossible work, without shutting down completely.

Patience isn’t weakness. It’s strategic violence against the systems that tried to break you.

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THE OVERWHELM IS THE POINT

That intensity crushing you? The symptoms flooding your awareness? The feeling of drowning in your own neurochemistry? This isn’t the system failing. It’s the system speaking its truth.

Healing means living in the brutal space between old patterns (triggers, symptoms, collapse) and new capacity (stability, awareness, power). This transition isn’t gentle. It’s a war zone where past and future battle for control of your present.

STOP SEEKING VALIDATION FROM THE BLIND

The people around you will never fully understand the depths of your experience. This isn’t their fault. They can only meet you as deeply as they’ve met themselves.

Stop looking for validation from those who haven’t descended into their own darkness. Their approval isn’t the prize. Your savage self-validation is.

MORE ANGER, MORE EXHAUSTION IS THE VICTORY

Shouldn’t healing mean less anger and more energy?

F*ck no.

As your system stabilizes, it gains the strength to feel what was too dangerous to feel before. Those waves of rage, grief and bone-deep exhaustion aren’t signs of failure. They’re buried truths finally strong enough to surface.

This isn’t regression. It’s resurrection.

HEALING ISN’T YOUR FULL-TIME JOB

The endless vigilance – tracking triggers, practicing regulation, monitoring patterns – will burn you to ash if you make it your entire existence.

Healing isn’t a 24/7 crusade. Sometimes the most powerful move is to stop trying so damn hard and let your system integrate on its own terms.

THE DARK TRUTH

Healing isn’t about getting it right. It’s about meeting the monster they tried to kill in you – again and again and again.

Even when it feels like you’re drowning in quicksand, your system is fighting for your life.

Every moment of raw attunement, every pause between the chaos, and every breath of fierce self-compassion is reshaping your neural landscape.

You’re not behind.

You’re not broken.

You’re a weapon being forged in fire.

And the heat is necessary.

Face it. Feel it. Let it the F* go.

Excuse me. *taps glass*

I think it’s time for a chat about spiritual bypassing.

This is coming up more and more in our industry and, frankly, it’s f*cking horrible.

For those not acquainted, spiritual bypassing prevents people from acknowledging what they feel and distances them from both themselves and others.

An example might be avoiding feeling angry, or overemphasizing the positive AND avoiding the negative.

I also see it where people are super detached, overly idealistic, feel entitled or simply aren’t focusing on the here and now.

It’s similar to emotional bypassing in that we don’t allow ourselves to fully process our negative feelings. Which breeds a toxic cesspool inside of us and creates more problems as we try to expand and grow.

You can NEVER get better by ignoring what’s bothering you.

Granted, we may not be aware that we’ve closed our hearts or we’re avoiding a particularly heavy feeling. In an effort to protect ourselves from trauma, we shut down, avoid, withdraw, dissociate — and sometimes convince ourselves that we have to just “STAY POSITIVE.”

I have no judgment about any of it.

HOWEVER, if you’re working with a coach who encourages this, it’s a big, fat, hairy problem.

I don’t care who you are, you’re human.

As long as you’re inside this bag of flesh and bones, you will have feelings. All kinds of them. And you may not like them very much.

But the process of true growth means FEELING THEM TO RELEASE THEM. There is no way to skip this step. None. And anyone who says otherwise is straight out lying to you.

Growth never means pretending emotions don’t exist. We’re never just “fine.” We have real shit to face and it’s your job to do just that.

In fact, stuffing emotion long-term has been proven time and again to cause physical illness, like cancers and autoimmune diseases, as well as mental illness.

We are NOT built to avoid what is uncomfortable. We are built to deal with it head on so we can then go further, faster, with a lighter load.

Face it. Feel it. Let it the f*ck go.

But it begins by acknowledging you are not a robot and you have things to release.

Please take the time to honor your body and mind and do this work.

Some refer to this as shadow work. I don’t care what you call it. Just deal with your feelings so you can excel in the areas you want.

If you feel held back, there’s a 99.9% chance it’s because of what I talked about here.

I made my first 6 figures in 2008, after 3 months of intense personal work on trauma.

I made my first 7 figures in 2012, after 6 months of transformational coaching that involved facing my deepest fears, loving my limits and choosing compassion for ALL OF ME.

I had my first multiple 7-figure year in 2015, after the deepest, scariest healing journey of my life. I called it the year of my soul retrieval.

Never once did I pretend life was fine.

Never once did I pretend I had it all together.

Never once did I avoid difficult emotions.

What you suppress festers.

One of the main reasons I now have a reputation for top-notch mindset and business coaching is because of my own journey.

I know what it’s like to be scared but have a dream.

I know what it’s like to desperately want to overcome fear and rise to the occasion.

And I know what it’s like to not have a clue where to begin.

If that’s you, it starts by emailing me at becky(at)rebeccatdickson(dot)com.

Your light comes from your shadow.

We need the darkness to see the contrast.

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