WOUND WORSHIP: THE COACHING INDUSTRY’S FAVORITE ADDICTION

They sold you healing like a cure.

What they didn’t tell you is they need you broken to stay in business.

Mainstream coaching thrives on your perpetual brokenness, packaging “healing” as an endless journey where you’re forever chasing wholeness but never quite arriving.

They’ve built empires on your trauma, convincing you that your wounds need gentle care, endless processing and constant attention.

Bullshit.

Your wounds aren’t delicate flowers to be watered with gratitude journals and affirmation practices. They’re not treasures to be displayed in sharing circles where everyone competes for who’s most damaged.

I watched a client spend three years with a “trauma-informed” coach who kept her locked in processing loops, revisiting her childhood pain weekly. Three years of “honoring her wounds.” Three years of being the eternally broken one. Three years of paying someone to keep her stuck.

That’s not healing. That’s wound worship.

And it’s a f*cking business model.

You know how I know? I was that coach once. I kept clients in those loops because I was taught that’s what healing looked like: endless introspection, constant processing, perpetual pain exploration.

Here’s what they don’t want you to see… The coaching industry has monetized your brokenness and rebranded it as “the healing journey.”

Every time you hear:

  • “This takes time”
  • “Healing isn’t linear”
  • “You’ll always be working on yourself”

Translate it: “Keep paying me forever.”

The wound-worship paradigm positions you as permanently damaged, always in need of another workshop, another program, another fucking breakthrough session.

They’ve built a religion around trauma where the only sin is thinking you’re done healing.

My approach? We don’t heal wounds. We forge weapons.

Your trauma isn’t your cross to bear. It’s the fire that tempers your blade.

Your darkness isn’t something to process endlessly. It’s power waiting to be unleashed.

When you come to me feeling broken, I don’t see someone who needs years of gentle healing circles. I see raw material for something dangerous.

A client came to me after four coaches and six years of “trauma work.” She’d been taught to cradle her abandonment issues like a sick child. Within three months with me, she’d transformed that abandonment into radical self-reliance that terrified everyone around her.

She didn’t heal her wound. She weaponized it.

The mainstream wants you soft, vulnerable, and eternally processing. They want you identifying as your trauma, wearing your diagnosis like a personality.

I want you lethal.

Stop worshipping at the altar of your wounds.

Stop paying people to keep you broken.

Your darkness isn’t something to overcome. It’s something to unleash.

The wound-worship coaches need you broken to validate their existence.

I need you dangerous to validate mine.

Don’t know where to start? Right here. The Trauma Paradox is the gateway to weaponizing wounds, and to no longer trying to “fix” something that was only ever there to empower you. We don’t worship wounds here. We weaponize them. #TraumaAsWeapon

THE BRUTAL TRUTH ABOUT NERVOUS SYSTEM HEALING

Ever wondered why healing your f*cked-up nervous system feels like wandering through a minefield blindfolded? Yeah. Me too.

Let me rip the mask off this “gentle journey” bullshit and show you the blood-soaked reality of what’s actually happening.

THE TRIGGER LABYRINTH

Your dysregulated system isn’t just “sensitive” – it’s a goddamn chaos engine running on corrupted code.

External triggers, internal triggers, shit you don’t even recognize as triggers… They’re everywhere, invisible and lethal.

You try some healing practice that should work and your body locks up in freeze or floods with anxiety. You did everything “right” and still got knocked on your ass.

And women? Your hormonal cycles aren’t just “challenging,” they’re brutal resurrection rituals every month. Your bleeding depletes minerals and water, stripping away resources your nervous system desperately needs to hold itself together.

This isn’t weakness. It’s biological warfare against your own stability.

Clarity doesn’t come from trying harder. It comes from surrendering to the monster inside you that’s been keeping score all along.

YOUR RATIONAL MIND IS THE ENEMY

Your thinking brain believes it can logic its way through trauma. This is a f*cking lie. A big one.

Regulation isn’t a cognitive process. It’s primal, instinctual, buried in your brainstem and viscera. Your rational mind is the jailer, not the liberator. (Read that again.)

True healing happens when you stop “doing” regulation and start allowing the savage intelligence of your body to reclaim its power.

Your system doesn’t need more control. It needs permission to remember what it knew before the world broke you.

THE CRUEL NONLINEARITY

Healing isn’t a straight line. It’s a bloody spiral through darkness.

You’ll taste freedom, then get dragged back into the pit.

You’ll feel powerful, then collapse under the weight of old patterns.

This isn’t failure. It’s the brutal reality of transformation.

The momentum builds only when your system accumulates new resources: clarity carved from chaos, attunement born from ashes, somatic capacity forged in fire, and the refined perception that comes from staring into the void without flinching.

TIME IS NOT YOUR ENEMY

You want it fixed now. Yesterday. Ten years ago before it all went to hell.

Wake up. Your system spent decades building fortress walls and digging trenches. Why the f*ck would years of accumulated survival patterns dissolve overnight?

Healing takes time because your nervous system is rewriting its core operating system while still running all primary functions. It’s not being slow to spite you. It’s doing impossible work, without shutting down completely.

Patience isn’t weakness. It’s strategic violence against the systems that tried to break you.

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THE OVERWHELM IS THE POINT

That intensity crushing you? The symptoms flooding your awareness? The feeling of drowning in your own neurochemistry? This isn’t the system failing. It’s the system speaking its truth.

Healing means living in the brutal space between old patterns (triggers, symptoms, collapse) and new capacity (stability, awareness, power). This transition isn’t gentle. It’s a war zone where past and future battle for control of your present.

STOP SEEKING VALIDATION FROM THE BLIND

The people around you will never fully understand the depths of your experience. This isn’t their fault. They can only meet you as deeply as they’ve met themselves.

Stop looking for validation from those who haven’t descended into their own darkness. Their approval isn’t the prize. Your savage self-validation is.

MORE ANGER, MORE EXHAUSTION IS THE VICTORY

Shouldn’t healing mean less anger and more energy?

F*ck no.

As your system stabilizes, it gains the strength to feel what was too dangerous to feel before. Those waves of rage, grief and bone-deep exhaustion aren’t signs of failure. They’re buried truths finally strong enough to surface.

This isn’t regression. It’s resurrection.

HEALING ISN’T YOUR FULL-TIME JOB

The endless vigilance – tracking triggers, practicing regulation, monitoring patterns – will burn you to ash if you make it your entire existence.

Healing isn’t a 24/7 crusade. Sometimes the most powerful move is to stop trying so damn hard and let your system integrate on its own terms.

THE DARK TRUTH

Healing isn’t about getting it right. It’s about meeting the monster they tried to kill in you – again and again and again.

Even when it feels like you’re drowning in quicksand, your system is fighting for your life.

Every moment of raw attunement, every pause between the chaos, and every breath of fierce self-compassion is reshaping your neural landscape.

You’re not behind.

You’re not broken.

You’re a weapon being forged in fire.

And the heat is necessary.